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We need to break up.... Its not working

Crying GirlDear John,
I care about you!  We've known each other for years!
I trusted you!
I love you, I really do.  But listen.....
Its me
Its not you
You call me late at night and ask questions,
You want things explained,
You want neighbourhood details and perspectives
Deep personal back ground info
You want property histories.... What sold on the street? How was it inside?
I know you are seeing properties with other agents.
Stop the denial.
We need to sign a Buyer's Agency or I refuse to be your emotional information center and data bank anymore....
I cannot handle the late night emails and phone calls that demand immediate attention without your mutual commitment.
You tell me.....
I cannot commit to you without your commitment to me.


It's over between us...  I cannot handle the lies.

David Pylyp

Etobicoke Real Estate Agent

Accredited Senior Agent for York Peel and Halton Regions

Lives in Toronto and promotes Giving Value

As we move forward It would be good if you also circled me on Google +

Comment balloon 28 commentsDavid Pylyp • August 04 2014 01:31PM


Ha!  And so the saga goes.  We need to take a stand and educate the public that this is our career and not just a hobby and yes - we have a life after 5:00 pm just like normal people. 

Love the Dear John letter.

Posted by Belinda Spillman, Colorado Living! (Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado) about 6 years ago

David - One of the better Dear John letters I have seen... I mean that I've heard about from friends of mine.  It is a great analogy to being an agent, the buyer feels the need to look with someone else, but always comes back to the most knowledgeable & best informed for their data fix.  Have them put a signature on the buyer agency form or stay broke up!

Posted by AJ Heidmann ~ CRS, YOUR Alexandria & Arlington, VA Real Estate Expert (McEnearney Associates, Inc.) about 6 years ago

Yes...the on going soap opera!

I have dropped many a dead client in my time.

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) about 6 years ago

Sometimes breaking up is hard to do, but there are times when you've got to do it!  Without a signed buyer agency agreement, the service center is closed. Great Dear John letter.  Thanks for sharing.

Posted by Diana White-Pettis, GRI, CDPE, CNE, WHC Upper Marlboro Homes for Sale (Bennett Realty Solutions) about 6 years ago

Alas we need to stand our ground because it is howwe earn our living.

My years as an information booth are over!


What's my Name?   Door matt    Welcome and wipe your feet please!


Thank you all for responding and adding a comment 



Posted by David Pylyp (RE/MAX Realty Specialists Inc.,) about 6 years ago

LOL! I actually don't even start a relationship unless we have our commitment laid out!

Posted by Shannon Milligan, Richmond VA Real Estate Agent/Associate Broker, RVA Home Team - Winning with Integrity. (RVA Home Team) about 6 years ago

LOVE THIS POST!  This is how I feel when I know buyers are courting another Realtor. Yet they come to me for all their information.

Posted by Sussie Sutton, David Tracy Real Estate for Buyers & Sellers (David Tracy Real Estate) about 6 years ago

I've found that dealing with this upfront with a dis-loyal buyer is the best way. They'll either sign up with you or walk away. And if they walk, you still haven't lost anything.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Realty) about 6 years ago

Classic post, David!  We don't need any one night stand showings.  Commit, or go away!

Posted by Fred Griffin Tallahassee Real Estate, Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker (Fred Griffin Real Estate) about 6 years ago

"You don't have to do anything, we found the property online.  Just need you to write the contract.  You don't have to do anything, you just show up and get paid 3%."

Posted by Tommy Hazleton (High Def Realty) about 6 years ago



the one night stand showing


Iam so gonna use that!


Thank you all!


Posted by David Pylyp (RE/MAX Realty Specialists Inc.,) about 6 years ago

Great post David. This is the most creative post I've read today!

Posted by Ann Zieve, Unmatched Ownership Experience (Keller Williams Success Realty) about 6 years ago

A good reminder to get a buyers agency agreement signed. There are buyers who will text/call agents all over town soliciting opinions and advice.

Posted by Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl, The Last Names You'll Ever Need in Real Estate (Samsel & Associates) about 6 years ago

This is classic.  I loved the post.  I needed a couple of Dear John letters to buyers and sellers when I started out, too!

Posted by Suzanne McLaughlin, Sabinske & Associates, Realtor (Sabinske & Associates, Inc. (Albertville, St. Michael)) about 6 years ago

BAM.  We're in this business to not only help people, but to make money and support ourselves.  People like this just aren't part of our business plan.  Good blog.  

Posted by Amanda Christiansen, Christiansen Group Realty (Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843) about 6 years ago

Love it, great post.

Posted by Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line (Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400) about 6 years ago

David Pylyp just received an email from the buyer about 'breaking the relationship' - and I did not cry! In fact I jumped with joy, because that's what I wanted to happen!

Some buyers don't deserve our agreements!

Posted by Praful Thakkar, Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale (LAER Realty Partners) about 6 years ago

Late night surprise calls are not for business in my  opinion. 


All luck and friends,


Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) about 6 years ago

Commit or get off of the pot lol. :)

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) about 6 years ago

Breaking up is hard to do. But without a commitment from a buyer, we are just waisting time.

Posted by Les & Sarah Oswald, Broker, Realtor and Investor (Realty One Group) about 6 years ago

I can hear the song in my head now, "Breaking up is hard to do......"  Clever and fun post but oh so true.

Posted by Paula McDonald, Ph.D., Granbury, TX 936-203-0279 (Beam & Branch Realty) about 6 years ago

It sounds like they were not only a time sucker, but a two (or perhaps three?) timing time sucker!

Posted by Judy Jennings, Tap into Judy's real estate expertise & resources. (Top Agent Plus) about 6 years ago

Love it! So much humor in reality! I have found that a lot of those folks just don't understand how I earn a living. Some are just jerks, and some are just takers. 

Posted by Suzie Townley, Relaxed Professionalism (Diamond Partners, Inc) about 6 years ago

This was a funny read.  Yup, you got a Play-a . . . not a Buy-a

Posted by Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED (RETIRED / State License is Inactive) about 6 years ago

David, this is priceless.

And you know the worst part, right?  When your play-a is playing you, he/she's playing with me.  Yup, I'm the mistress here.  I can figure that out when I've gotten 2 or 3 calls or emails from someone who's clearly a consumer and yet is asking questions or making statements that are above their pay-grade, and I know they've gotten something from someone else.

Yup, by call #3, we're in a committed relationship, or not.

Funny post. So true.

Posted by Claude Labbe, Realty for Your Busy Life (Real Living | At Home) about 6 years ago

Some people are just obsessed. I just find myself responding at my convenience always asking for an appointment.

Posted by Bill Reddington, Destin Florida Real Estate (Re/max By The Sea) about 6 years ago

David,  Sometimes we need to exercise tough love. No commitment from people means they don't get the best of us.  We are not toys to be played with. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist, Probate Real Estate (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) about 6 years ago

You are a very gentle soul:)

I have no patience for that, not in business relationship nor in personal ones.

Posted by Inna Ivchenko, Realtor® • Green • GRI • HAFA • PSC Calabasas CA (Barcode Properties) almost 5 years ago

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