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Aging with Mom and Dad

When will you Talk with Mom and Dad about Downsizing.

We have all seen the television commercial that coined the phrase "Help, Help I've fallen and can't get up and the elderly woman reaching for a lifeline necklace to alert an ambulance." The reality is that we have always deferred our decisions to the greater wisdom that our parents possessed.
There will come a time or it is already here that requires you to deal with some direct and vital issues.
You need to ask the serious questions before...
  • Their mobility and memory has been impeded.
  • There has been a catostrophic event - slip or fall
  • There a medical emergency - Heart attack or Stroke

In my personal life, I was recruited to serve my Father, for a period of five years. The episode began begrudgingly but in hindsight provided the best memories of my Dad and happier moments. I did not expect to alter my perspective of asking his advice to changing his diapers within a two year span. Yet the financial realities of elder care and the direct cost of nursing homes or assisted living centers needs us all to reevaluate how we will deal with these issues.

Research the Population Numbers

By 2011, more than 1.3 million Canadians will be over the age of 80. Boomers and their aging parents need to be talking to a financial advisor or planner about their options to ensure financial security in times of death, disease and disability.

By 2021 it is expected that the senior population in Canada will be 6.7 million and 9.2 million in 2041, or nearly one in four Canadians. You need to be talking to your parents now. As a Boomer just reaching -- or about to reach -- retirement, you are probably seeing your children out the door on their way to begin their lives but at the same time you may be now, or in the future, responsible for new dependants -- your parents. Medical and nutritional advances mean that the fathers of boomers can expect to live to 90, while their mothers can expect to live to 95. That means there is every chance Boomers will spend more time looking after their parents than their parents did raising them. Source FORUM, May 2008, Aging Opportunity

So, Who can Help Guide you?

There are some really great resources out there. I was in contact with Dr. James Watzke, a gerontologist and Christine Flegal, a gerontologist in the Living Laboratory at the B.C. Institute of Technology who have assembled a Guide both for you as the aging Boomer but for you to initiate the conversations with Mom and Dad while you are home over the holidays.

BCIT's Mobility Now You're Going Places Program, Christine Flegal/BCIT Funding for the BCIT Mobility project was provided by the Public Health Agency of Canada, BCIT, in collaboration with Weber Shandwick Worldwide.

The Region of Peel has taken a different step in that they are outlining and explaining the different options that are available to you locally; from adding a room within your own home,

A Guide to Housing Options is available through my office or can be downloaded at

When you are next home for a visit; take a look around. You may need to nail down a few carpets that could make them trip, discuss a more suitable walker or cane. Ask where the Wills and Power of Attorney Documents are kept and if they are up to date.

Crisis management does not permit forward thinking.

Call me for a personal home visit and discussion. How can I help you?

David Pylyp

Etobicoke Real Estate Agent

Accredited Senior Agent for York Peel and Halton Regions

Lives in Toronto and promotes Giving Value

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Comment balloon 1 commentDavid Pylyp • December 10 2009 11:00AM


Very good article this is what it all about  DEMOGRAPHICS   Keep up the good articles

Posted by Tom over 10 years ago

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